Creating A Life That Fits Like Skin
Something transforming happens when one is removed from a familiar environment and transported out of the comfort zone. In a place where there are no expectations there is tremendous freedom to be whoever you are. I have experienced that exhilarating truth first-hand and the joy of living honestly and fully is an unimaginable gift.
I didn’t expect to fall in love with a place. People, yes. Place, no. After moving over forty times in my life, living in six different states, traveling in many different countries, I knew there were some locations that drew me more than others. But love? Hardly.
And then I discovered Bali. Exotic, warm, welcoming, kind, with an energy so profoundly feminine I felt cradled in her moist, green arms. The people, the vistas, the rituals, overwhelmed me with a sense of belonging. I marveled at that. Why? How? But I couldn’t deny that I felt complete in this place and the loneliness that had haunted me all my life vanished when I yielded to her embrace.
That was March 2012 and I haven’t looked back. The life I have here is so unlike anything remotely possible in the U.S. that even as I’ve attempted to describe it in my blog posts, it’s the bare essence of reality.
An equatorial, tropical island, developmentally stuck somewhere between the 1960’s and 2016, is not everyone’s dream of paradise. Maybe it’s a house in the country. Maybe it’s New York City. As with most things, one size does not fit all. The challenge, then, is to find what does fit, and pursue that dream as if life depended upon it, refusing to let fear or doubt have a voice. Do it, do it, do it! Because until that place welcomes you home, you have no idea how joyous and complete life can be.