Painting Outside the Lines

3800 people from 37 different countries have read my blog. Amazing. And the fact that somewhere behind the scenes that information can be gathered and available to me is even more incredible. But better than all of that is the technology that makes it possible for me to find Rita Golden Gelman, send her an e-mail, and have a response within twenty-four hours from her laptop in Turkey.

So who is Rita Gelman? Backing up just a bit, I met a woman from Iceland who had read Tales of a Female Nomad. She highly recommended the book so I ordered it and began reading immediately. Rita Golden Gelman, the author, lived in Bali for eight years. As I read about her experiences there I began to understand and appreciate more fully my own journey. So I emailed to let her know how profoundly her book had touched me. She answered immediately and included in her response the name and e-mail address of a person who lives in the seaside village of Kerambitan, Bali. She encouraged me to contact her friend if I wanted to see that area, and of course I will.

Rita is now 75 and has been traveling the globe and living with indigenous people all over the world since 1986. She’s had no permanent address.

The thing that becomes clearer day by day is that there are many ways to do this life. The roadblocks to pursuing dreams, finding peace, experiencing joy, are often our own limiting assumptions. The stories we tell ourselves determine how we live. Often they are just stories with no basis in truth, they are perceptions of how we think we should be.

Last night I got together with a group of friends. One of them said that she had been reading my blog and her favorite post was the one called My Wife is Fat. The Balinese man who said that also told me that he likes it. Fat, to him, means something far different than it does to us in the U.S. He tells himself a story about his wife that allows him to appreciate her ample girth.

When I utilized discovery writing techniques, I found new ways of perceiving my reality. The tagline on my website says, “Creating a life that fits like skin.” It’s trial and error. I’ve let go of the need to get it right the first time. I’ve given myself permission to paint outside the lines. Have you ever seen the view from there? From outside the lines? It takes my breath away. That’s where I’m finding my skin. That’s where I seem to fit. But I still have to fight the ‘stories’ that play in my head. They are full of shoulds and shouldn’ts. They want to keep me small and sad and caged. I see them for what they are, old fears, old old stuff. So I give my head a shake to clear the cobwebs and click the BUY button. A confirmation number for my return flight to Bali appears on the screen and my soul sprouts wings.

4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Sondra Jackson
    Jul 27, 2018 @ 00:42:40

    Hi I just discovered your blog while researching Indonesia as a retirement destination. I love it. I just ordered Tales of a Female Nomad :). I am single 55 1/2 LOL no children. I leave the country every other year, so far I’ve been all over the Caribbean, Mexico, Canada, England, Scotland, Morocco, Spain, France & Italy. I am planning a trip to India next year. My plan has always been to retire outside of the US. I just wanted to let you know how absolutely delightful I find your blog. Thank you so very much for sharing your life with us.



    • writingforselfdiscovery
      Jul 27, 2018 @ 08:06:21

      Sondra, thank you so much for letting me know that you appreciate my stories! The blog is a great outlet for the amazing experiences that grace my days. Had I known how exciting, joyous, and rewarding my retirement years would be, I’d have started sooner! And I could have. I just didn’t know it at the time. Don’t wait too long to initiate your plan! Find that place on the earth that speaks most passionately to you and JUST GO!



      • Sondra Jackson
        Jul 31, 2018 @ 03:50:27

        It’s a financial issue for me. I didn’t work for several years and had to deal with 3 pets who all had cancer, so it pretty much wiped out my savings. So I really need to wait until my SS is correct. I also have a huge collection of vintage clothing that I rent and sell to the industry etc. I’m researching Bali and may take a trip there next year. But until then I shall live vicariously through you and other bloggers that I follow. 🙂



  2. writingforselfdiscovery
    Jul 31, 2018 @ 11:56:12

    I understand being strapped financially. But don’t let that immobilize you. Make a plan to reduce/eliminate debt. Be creative. If you truly want something, direct energy toward attaining it or it will never move beyond the ‘wishful thinking’ stage. A visit here is a great idea. Keep me posted!



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