Happiness Lesson #1

Photo credit to acolorfuljourney

Photo credit to acolorfuljourney


That’s my mantra. It helps that it rhymes. It also helps that it’s short and easy to remember. Even so, it’s one of the hardest instructions to follow.

When we want something, we generally want it now. If there are roadblocks to getting it now, we waste days trying to figure out how to get past them.  Often several options involving effort present themselves. Maybe we have to convince someone else to get out of our way. Maybe we have to borrow money. Maybe we try to form alliances. Whatever it is, the stomach knots, the mind spins and the result is STRESS!


Yes, that’s it, let it go. Whatever it is you must have, pushing, tugging, and creating angst for yourself is not the way to get it. If it’s yours, then it’s already yours and the timing will work itself out. If it isn’t yours, but you MAKE it yours, it comes with a warning. It probably won’t bring happiness and blessing to your life.

For too many years, by sheer power of will and a little creative juice, I went after what I wanted, timing be damned. In the process I left a trail of broken dreams in my wake. In my 40’s I began to ask why and seek answers. I started to wake up. Old habits die hard, but a true desire to change is a mighty force and I truly desired a different life.

Letting go of the need to control circumstances was probably the greatest challenge of all. But eventually I stopped having to plot the future down to the last toenail.


When faced with uncertainty I just did ‘the next right thing’. If that wasn’t clear, I felt my feet. Right. I stopped where I was, planted my two feet flat on the earth, and focused. It’s the quickest way to be grounded in the present moment. Then I repeated my mantra…”Be in the now and allow.”

Peace comes with letting go. Then magic happens. When we move out of the way, we make space for energetic forces that defy our limited site-lines. We allow abundance. We invite blessing.

People ask, “What made you choose Bali?” Well, it wasn’t like that. The energy of Bali chose me, and I allowed it.

6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Lottie Nevin
    Jun 01, 2013 @ 01:27:54

    I’m so glad Bali chose you! I’ve really enjoyed your post today, it makes a lot of sense. Wise words xx



  2. healingpilgrim
    Jun 01, 2013 @ 03:42:10

    Inspiring words too. But what if something is yours (so to speak but not really) and you don’t want it to be… you WANT to let it go? Hmm, now that is a tough one. You are indeed blessed… to allow the now.. and for happiness to seep into your life 😉



    • writingforselfdiscovery
      Jun 01, 2013 @ 05:50:11

      ‘Something’ either is or it isn’t yours. There are no shades of gray with this kind of energy. But I think what you are referring to is a bit different. There is also acceptance of things we cannot change, and that, too, is a form of letting go. Happiness is positive energy. It isn’t the lack of pain, sadness, disease. If we equate happiness with the absence of x,y,z, we will never achieve it. Happiness is a plus sign. If we add a condition with a minus attached to it, it cancels out the equation.



  3. w
    Jun 01, 2013 @ 05:21:31

    my sister .. now only happens once … and it only happens now … but then you already knew that



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