Creating A Life That Fits Like Skin


Something transforming happens when one is removed from a familiar environment and transported out of the comfort zone. In a place where there are no expectations there is tremendous freedom to be whoever you are.  I have experienced that exhilarating truth first-hand and the joy of living honestly and fully is an unimaginable gift.

I didn’t expect to fall in love with a place. People, yes. Place, no. After moving over forty times in  my life, living in six different states, traveling in many different countries, I knew there were some locations that drew me more than others. But love? Hardly.

And then I discovered Bali. Exotic, warm, welcoming, kind, with an energy so profoundly feminine I felt cradled in her moist, green arms. The people, the vistas, the rituals, overwhelmed me with a sense of belonging. I marveled at that. Why? How? But I couldn’t deny that I felt complete in this place and the loneliness that had haunted me all my life vanished when I yielded to her embrace.

That was March 2012 and I haven’t looked back. The life I have here is so unlike anything remotely possible in the U.S. that even as I’ve attempted to describe it in my blog posts, it’s the bare essence of reality.

An equatorial, tropical island, developmentally stuck somewhere between the 1960’s and 2015, is not everyone’s dream of paradise. Maybe it’s a house in the country. Maybe it’s New York City. As with most things, one size does not fit all. The challenge, then, is to find what does fit, and pursue that dream as if life depended upon it, refusing to let fear or doubt have a voice. Do it, do it, do it! Because until that place welcomes you home, you have no idea how joyous and complete life can be.



26 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Bobbi DeGuiseppi
    Mar 17, 2012 @ 07:28:20

    I am encumbered by what I have created in my life too, Sherry…So I wish you every happiness in your venture,,, Sounds Great!!!


  2. Nancy Strauss
    Mar 19, 2012 @ 21:14:56

    Congrats Sherry!! I’m realy happy for you & look forward to your blogs. (I think I can figure out how to do this . . .)
    Love Nancy


  3. Sharon Henderson
    Mar 26, 2012 @ 15:43:47



  4. Steve Kahlenbeck
    Jun 25, 2012 @ 14:21:21

    Sherry – congratulations on your exciting journey. It sounds very intriguing. Much of my work involves writing. Although not to the creative degree that you are following. Whether Bali, the Boundary Waters or Lake Pokegama, I agree that the setting and atmosphere can open up wonderful possibilities. All the best. Steve


  5. rae
    Jul 10, 2012 @ 10:21:37

    I’ll be following you and possibly visiting…


  6. happycatie
    Aug 11, 2012 @ 11:30:16

    Sounds wonderful…what a beautiful way to spend some time away!


  7. anspired
    Oct 27, 2012 @ 23:38:33

    What a fabulous recipe for recovery!I have been battling a chronic illness and just yesterday thought ‘I need to go away for a long time’ Bali sounds Wonderful! thank you for this post.


    • writingforselfdiscovery
      Jun 04, 2013 @ 23:02:25

      I just wanted to send a note to alert you to the upcoming November 2013 Writing for Self-Discovery and Yoga Workshop in Bali. Is this a vehicle to jumpstart your ‘going away for a very long time’ journey?


  8. drewdog2060drewdog2060
    Nov 27, 2012 @ 10:24:18

    I have always wanted to visit Indonesia. Your seminar (if that is the correct term) sounds wonderful.


    • writingforselfdiscovery
      Nov 27, 2012 @ 11:08:07

      Thank you for the kind words. Seminar/workshop/class/journey…it is whatever you want it to be. One participant just bought her plane tickets for the whole month of February combining a vacation with the 10-day seminar. Why don’t you do the same?! Bali is the best of Indonesia and I would be delighted to answer any questions and help to make this the adventure of a lifetime for you.


    • writingforselfdiscovery
      Jun 04, 2013 @ 23:00:02

      Just checking in with you, drewdog2060 to see if the upcoming November Writing and Yoga Workshop in Bali would work for your first visit to Indonesia! I’m partnering with Jane Kagan, a fabulous yogini from Australia at the Narasoma Retreat Center in Ubud. Check it out on the ‘Workshops’ link in the menu above.


  9. heysherrifaye
    Nov 27, 2012 @ 17:50:17

    This is fantastic. It has been a joy to witness your renaissance in the 8 or 9 years that I have known you!


  10. tr4velgeek
    Jan 01, 2013 @ 06:16:28

    Wow ! I would love to join, unfortunately can’t take long leave from work this Feb. Maybe next time? All the very best too you.


  11. Kasprick KATHLEEN
    Jun 03, 2013 @ 12:02:56

    Dear Sherry,
    I’m serious about attending. Have not much experience in being a solo traveller. My life, like others’ lives, is clutter, messy, and not too fulfilling. Are you a decent handholder (not therapist) but a cheerleader? Give me encouragement, please.


    • writingforselfdiscovery
      Jun 03, 2013 @ 22:55:56

      I am most definitely not a therapist! But cheering and encouragement are 99% of the job description! Travelling solo is empowering as long as you remain flexible. It would be lovely to have you here for the workshop in November. I would highly recommend coming a few days early since jet-lag from America must be factored in. Then stay a few more weeks after the workshop to explore and enjoy this amazing island and it’s beautiful people. After the workshop my time is much more available, too. How exciting, Kath! I am here to answer any questions. Fire away!


      • Kasprick KATHLEEN
        Jun 04, 2013 @ 11:25:16

        Sheri, I think I’m in. As to being flexible, I’m not sure I recall what that feels like or how it looks. We have a household of 675 rules, we keep every record written, we scour bills for errors. Heck, we, like kittens, pounce on errors. That’s a sad truth.And, perhaps, sadder still, that’s what has kept us together. Too much truth perhaps, but facing it does…..what’s that about “sets you free?”

        hugs from the heartland, and heart.

  12. Caitlin @ The Siren's Tale
    Jul 02, 2013 @ 13:30:00

    That picture is classic!


  13. Bob Bruman
    Jul 16, 2013 @ 18:05:11

    Tell her I will buy everything on her head. (jk) lol What a fun woman!


  14. Nanci Froemming
    Oct 03, 2013 @ 09:04:13

    Thank you for sharing your wonderful experience of helping plan your daughter’s wedding. It looks like a dream!


    • writingforselfdiscovery
      Oct 03, 2013 @ 17:26:14

      And so it was! But now I’m back home and had dinner with Nina and Dewi last night. I think Dewi grew 4 inches while I was gone! They are busily packing for their trip back to the States. Enjoy your time with them, Nanci! I hope I have the opportunity to meet you some day soon!


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  16. Karin Grouf
    Aug 25, 2014 @ 14:23:31

    When we push ourselves we discover how capable we are and lose fears along the way. It is called wisdom. Sometimes when we least expect it there is a subtle shift in our thinking that sets other things in gear. Opening our heart and mind is the essence.


  17. Karin Grouf
    Aug 25, 2014 @ 14:52:56

    Many forms of expression. Mine is painting and journaling with painting. More than photos it permits me to record a moment in time and all that surrounded it.


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