Are you content? BE TERRIFIED!


Sometimes we get stuck in our lives. No matter how gorgeous, titillating, and inspired they may be, eventually it all becomes normal; still really really good, but normal. That state of complacency, cruise-control I call it, is often confused with contentment. “Oh everything’s great. I’m content with my life.” If that’s you, be terrified.

I’ve lived in Bali for five years. From day one I was awestruck. Everything was like nothing I’d ever known, done, seen, heard, believed, before. I was drinking from the fire hydrant of life at just about the same gushing flow. Joy was my perpetual state followed close on its heels by deep, soul-satisfying gratitude. I dreamed big and the dreams that manifested were bigger. Bali met me on every plane of existence with abundance above and beyond imagining.

But like many romances, infatuation becomes lust, becomes admiration, becomes love, becomes commitment…and then if the fire is left untended it wanes to coals and burns out to cold, dead, ash.

I woke up one morning and felt the chill.

Bali was still Bali. I knew that. But something inside me had shifted and I didn’t feel her the way I had before. I’d become content, but in the wake of the intensity of joy, discovery, and amazement, contentment was a colorless place emitting the low-level hum of boredom.

There was nothing wrong. It’s very difficult to sort out what’s not right when there’s nothing wrong. I journaled, meditated, yoga’d, did everything I knew to do. But I was metaphorically at sea in a magnificent sailboat without a breath of wind. My father died. My first grandchild was born. Life crested and dipped like waves around me but I remained stagnant in their midst.

Then one day by divine chance, I stumbled upon a book with the dreadful title, A Happy Pocket Full of Money, by David Cameron Gikandi. Truth be told, I would have never picked that book off the shelf. But because of the serendipitous way it crossed my path, I read it. Buried in a paragraph on page 85, was the key that broke the code. Paraphrased it went something like this: A major reason why people lose their joy is because they cease to dream. Sometimes this happens when comfort is finally achieved, which isn’t a bad thing. But if you find yourself going down, re-examine your goals and mental images, for life is images of the mind expressed.

Bingo! Sirens went off. Five years ago my head had been filled with images: the kind of life I desired, the books I would write, the home I would live in, the friends I would have. Five years later, I HAD IT ALL. I had achieved comfort. But the place in my mind once filled with fantastic visions and outrageous dreams was now empty space and I was going down.

The author didn’t stop there. He went on to make the remarkable claim that 5000 dreams are better than 500. His premise is that you want to give Source plenty to work with.

So I’m imagining my list of 5000 dreams. I have three so far but they’re big ones. Meanwhile, I’ve recognized that in the wake of so much blessing an old belief system had crept back in, one that suggested I’d been given so much more than I deserved, how dare I dream of anything else? Where do these idiotic lies come from? And why was I paying so little attention? I knew better!

It didn’t take months, or weeks, or even days. Within hours of the juicy birth of new desires, the lights went on, the expectant sizzle of potential zinged through my veins, and lusty infatuation for everyone and everything made me giddy with joy. Never, ever again will I let my life get comfortably dreamless. Thank you, Mr. Gikandi.


“With our thoughts we make the world.”
– Buddha

“If you can dream it, you can do it.”
– Walt Disney

“The empires of the future are empires of the mind.”
– Winston Churchill

“Where there is no vision the people perish.”
– Proverbs 29:18

“You’ve got to think about big things while you’re doing small things, so that all the small things go in the right direction.”
– Alvin Toffler

“Dreams are extremely important. You can’t do it unless you can imagine it.”
-George Lucas

“Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.”
– Napoleon Hill

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with success unexpected in common hours.”
РHenry David Thoreau 


6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. bikeclimbhike
    Oct 26, 2016 @ 06:49:33

    So true! I take it a step further and create a vision board on my bedroom wall of the things I want in my future. Words, pictures, maps and places, even outfits I want to wear and hairstyles. It’s like magic the way it manifests and then….time for new visions. I am in complete support of what you write, it is up to us to control our futures. I am retiring in Dec and moving to Mexico in Jan/Feb then traveling abroad for 6 months. Dreams do come true!
    Blessings, Mary



    • writingforselfdiscovery
      Oct 26, 2016 @ 07:25:38

      Congratulations on your upcoming retirement! Moving to Mexico and then traveling for six months…I love it! And anything that aids the visualization process is, as you say, like magic. I create vision boards on my desktop since I see that a g’zillion times a day and it reinforces the dreams. Thanks for reading!



  2. Henderson Threads
    Oct 26, 2016 @ 08:03:35

    Love the article . Do you realize that all of the quotes are by men? Where are women? Do you wonder why you automatically chose quotes by men? Understanding how women our age grew up in a white male dominated culture may be the most revealing aspect to understanding your life and that of other women.


    Sent from my iPhone




    • writingforselfdiscovery
      Oct 26, 2016 @ 08:15:45

      Interesting insight, Sharon. To answer your question about why I automatically chose quotes by men…I grabbed the quotes that I felt applied to the article out of a list but there were no quotes at all by women on that website now that you mention it. It wasn’t a conscious choice to exclude women.

      There’s no question that you and I grew up in a white male dominated culture, and so did my girls, and so will my granddaughter. But it appears that we will all live to see a woman as President of the U.S. so progress, however agonizingly slow, is being made.



  3. Anonymous
    Oct 27, 2016 @ 11:08:28

    Thanks for a terrific article, Sherry, so good to remember we need the dreams first



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